Allison’s Story

Posted on by Renee Morales

"2006 was a rough year for me. My grandfather and my little brother both passed away within months of each other and my faith in God was diminishing. With so much going on, I barely took care of myself. A few weeks later, my mom convinced me to go to the doctor to make sure I was okay. I was 16 years old and a sophomore in high school when I found out I was pregnant.

My mom has ALWAYS been my number one supporter. I remember the day I broke the news to her. I gave her the bag that the clinic sent me home with and inside was a positive pregnancy test. I was four months pregnant. My mom didn’t react with excitement nor was she disappointed. She was still suffering from the loss of my brother and was almost numb to the news of her oldest daughter becoming a teen parent, just like her.

This is when she found Parent Life. She made a phone call and told me to go to this "support group” that could help me throughout my pregnancy. At first I didn’t enjoy the thought of opening up to strangers and feeling vulnerable. Over time, it became my second home.

Several months later, I was a junior at Lubbock High School and feeling huge and pregnant. I was barely even able to walk up the 3 flights of stairs to make it to class. I remember the glares and the whispers. My mom and I decided it was best that I graduate high school early and get a jump start on college. This meant leaving behind all of my friends. My support system.

I took both junior and senior classes during the day at school and went home and took senior classes online at night in order to graduate a year ahead of my class. I went into labor with my daughter on the day of my high school graduation and did not get to walk the stage. Instead, I received one of God’s many blessings that day...my daughter!

I immediately enrolled in community college in July of 2007 and was very eager to make my mom proud. A couple of months into college, I found out I was pregnant again. As embarrassed as I was, I told my mom anyway. She wasn’t happy at all. My relationship with the girls’ dad was very rocky and we were not ready to take on baby number 2. In May of 2008, my second daughter was born.

Having a second child made things so much more difficult. I worked a full time job and still went to college. I began to feel overwhelmed. I tried keeping up with my friends that didn’t have kids and made some bad choices along the way. I just wanted to live the life that I missed out on because I had kids. I fell out of touch with my friends at Parent Life and I learned the hard way that God’s plan always prevails.

In October 2010, I found out I was pregnant for a third time. 20 years old and on baby number 3. I fell into a depression and decided I was going to get an abortion. There was no way I was going to be able to afford a third child. I scheduled an appointment to go through with the procedure, but I began questioning my choice. “What does God think about abortion?” “Will I go to hell if I have an abortion?”

My younger sister accidentally mentioned that I was pregnant again at one of the Parent Life meetings and told my Mentor Mom, Renee, about my “decision." She reached out to me and asked if we could meet for lunch. I agreed to meet with her the day before my abortion appointment. I was dreading the meeting because I didn’t want anyone to try and talk me out of something that I had already made up my mind about.

She didn't try to talk me out of it. She just listened and told me that no matter what I chose to do she loved me, and more importantly God loved me.

After the conversation with Renee and a long night of praying, I decided to not go to my appointment that day for the abortion. I knew in my heart that I could never forgive myself for going through with it. Most importantly, I knew that God would see me through the difficulties of raising three kids.

In July of 2011, my third daughter was born. I like to call her my miracle baby. She is the reason I turned to God more than ever before. I am now 25 years old with 3 beautiful daughters. I am a full time employee, full time college student, and most importantly, a full time mom.

Being a part of Parent Life for almost 10 years has changed my life. I have always had a relationship with God, but it had never really made sense to me. My faith was restored at Parent Life. My relationship with Christ has grown more than I could have ever imagined.

My advice to those who may be experiencing a similar situation is to NEVER GIVE UP. You may lose your faith at times, but always remember that God is the answer to everything. You are never alone. There is nothing in this world that you cannot overcome. Set goals, have a dream and go for it! Success is worth every early morning, every sleepless night, and every meltdown in between."

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